6 Signs that You Need Better Boundaries
Caregiver in Los Angeles CA
Boundaries are a nebulous topic for a lot of people, but if your boundaries are fuzzy or non-existent then you’re likely to give more to others than you’re prepared to give. This is particularly 
dangerous if you’re a family caregiver, because so much is already being asked of you. Here are some signs that your boundaries need a bit of work.
You Feel that People Consistently Ask Too Much of You
When your boundaries aren’t so great, it’s not unusual to feel that people are always wanting something from you. You might feel like it’s too much, but you keep plugging along. Eventually, you start to resent the people that ask you to do things.
You Say “Yes” When You Mean “No”
Along with feeling that people are asking too much of you, you can’t seem to say what you really think, which is, “No, this is too much.” Your boundaries are set so improperly that you keep agreeing to do more and more, building that resentment higher.
You Feel You Do More for Others than They Do for You
Since you’re so focused on resenting all that you do for everyone else, you wind up feeling that you’re the only one doing anything. No one does things for you, because you’re so busy running around meeting everyone else’s needs.
You Feel Like People Get Too Close
Because your boundaries are off, you’re afraid to let people get close to you. And this makes sense, because the people who are close to you are the ones that you feel ask too much from you. So letting anyone else get close is just asking for more trouble.
You Don’t Feel that Others Appreciate What You Do
No matter how much you do for other people, they don’t seem to understand how much effort and time you put into accomplishing so much for them. And that just makes you feel more resentful because you’ve given up so much and they give back so little.
You Feel Stressed at Just the Thought of Disappointing Others
When you feel that you might disappoint other people, you wind up feeling stressed out or even sick to your stomach. It’s just not something that you can deal with on any level.
Getting your boundaries in order helps you to make decisions about other people that help you to feel good instead of resentful about what you do for them.